Two Questions?

“Can I?” or “ How Can I?”

Have you discovered the difference in these two questions? Many times it is what and how we say things that makes a question more powerful than another one.

“Can I?” When we give some thought to this question how does it make you feel? Does it make you feel empowered and ready to take action? Do you feel and experience hesitation and doubt, that may not even try because it probably won’t work. Also that I am asking someone permission to do whatever, if it is ok, should I do this??

How about if we change that to “How Can I”? 

When I ask myself this question. This problem has an answer.  I start thinking of all the different ways that I can do this thing. That there are many different ways to do somethings. One needs to just find some of these ways and  do some of them and see what the results are. If the results aren’t what was desired, I can use one of the other options. This kind of action and thinking  will stimulate one to come up with more ideas, increases the thinking capacity  and become more creative. Always moving forward and expanding, growing in knowledge and experiences.   Growing and becoming a better person is the goal. If one doesn’t continue to grow we will regress. No growth leads to regression,  that we do not stay in one place, stable in our growth. It is regress or grow, no in between. 

Which question are you going to start asking yourself?